Thursday, October 9, 2008

Why I support Proposition 8



From The Family: A Proclamation to the World

“We, the First Presidency and the Council of the Twelve Apostles of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, solemnly proclaim that marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God and that the family is central to the Creator’s plan for the eternal destiny of His children.

“All human beings—male and female—are created in the image of God. Each is a beloved spirit son or daughter of heavenly parents, and, as such, each has a divine nature and destiny. Gender is an essential characteristic of individual premortal, mortal, and eternal identity and purpose."

“We warn that individuals who violate covenants of chastity, who abuse spouse or offspring, or who fail to fulfill family responsibilities will one day stand accountable before God. Further, we warn that the disintegration of the family will bring upon individuals, communities, and nations the calamities foretold by ancient and modern prophets.

“We call upon responsible citizens and officers of government everywhere to promote those measures designed to maintain and strengthen the family as the fundamental unit of society” (Ensign, Nov. 1995, 102).

The following letter was sent from the First Presidency of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints to Church leaders in California to be read to all congregations on 29 June 2008:

Preserving Traditional Marriage and Strengthening Families

"In March 2000 California voters overwhelmingly approved a state law providing that “Only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California.” The California Supreme Court recently reversed this vote of the people. On November 4, 2 008, Californians will vote on a proposed amendment to the California state constitution that will now restore the March 2000 definition of marriage approved by the voters."

The Church’s teachings and position on this moral issue are unequivocal. Marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God, and the formation of families is central to the Creator’s plan for His children. Children are entitled to be born within this bond of marriage.

A broad-based coalition of churches and other organizations placed the proposed amendment on the ballot. The Church will participate with this coalition in seeking its passage. Local Church leaders will provide information about how you may become involved in this important cause.

We ask that you do all you can to support the proposed constitutional amendment by donating of your means and time to assure that marriage in California is legally defined as being between a man and a woman. Our best efforts are required to preserve the sacred institution of marriage.

From www.preservingmarriage.org

* Having tolerance without condoning — We can love someone while still maintaining and advocating our standards and beliefs.

* Unless Proposition 8 passes, California society will soon undergo a profound change in its basic understanding of marriage and family life. — That will affect everyone in numerous ways. Over time, greater acceptance of nontraditional marriage will be demanded of all people. This could impact the ability of any religion to teach and practice its beliefs.

* Proposition 8 will not hurt gays — In California, the law provides for marriage-related benefits to be given to civil unions and domestic partnerships. Proposition 8 does not diminish these benefits.

* Failure to pass Proposition 8 will hurt children — If gay marriage remains legal, public schools will put it on equal footing with traditional marriage. Children will likely receive “age appropriate” information about sexual relations within heterosexual and homosexual marriages.

* Failure to pass Proposition 8 will hurt churches — The court’s decision will inevitably lead to conflicts with religious liberty and free speech rights. Society will become more and more hostile to traditional beliefs about marriage and family.

The bottom line is this:

The focus of the Church’s involvement is specifically same-sex marriage and its consequences. The Church does not object to rights (already established in California) regarding hospitalization and medical care, fair housing and employment rights, or probate rights, so long as these do not infringe on the integrity of the family or the constitutional rights of churches and their adherents to administer and practice their religion free from government interference.

— The Divine Institution of Marriage

4 comments:

Zach said...

Hey! I know that bald guy at the beginning. That was kind of funny.

Sean said...

How was that meeting yesterday? I never heard back from you...

Scott said...

Why I Don't

Over time, greater acceptance of nontraditional marriage will be demanded of all people. This could impact the ability of any religion to teach and practice its beliefs.

Note the inclusion of the word "could". This is a pure "what-if" scenario, and not a very realistic one. We already teach and practice many beliefs that run contrary to what's accepted as "normal" by society (temple marriage, chastity, the Word of Wisdom, etc.). Our ability to teach and practice those beliefs has not been hampered by society's opposing views.

Proposition 8 will not hurt gays — In California, the law provides for marriage-related benefits to be given to civil unions and domestic partnerships. Proposition 8 does not diminish these benefits.

... and riding in the back of the bus or using a different drinking fountain didn't hurt black people. What bothers me most about this particular argument is that the Church has been involved in opposing rights for domestic partnerships and civil unions in other states. Since CA already has these rights in place, they'll use this fact as an argument against marriage, but you can bet that if CA didn't have domestic partnership laws in place, the Church would take a stance against them, just like it has in several other states.

Failure to pass Proposition 8 will hurt children — If gay marriage remains legal, public schools will put it on equal footing with traditional marriage. Children will likely receive “age appropriate” information about sexual relations within heterosexual and homosexual marriages.

Not true. Or only partially true and worded so as to inspire a negative gut reaction. CA education code requires that students are taught "respect for marriage and committed relationships"--even if Prop 8 passes, kids will be taught that a same-sex couple's committed relationship is deserving of respect. And I don't understand why this is a bad thing! I've got four kids, and I hope that they learn (both at home and at school) that Johnny's family with a single mom deserves as much respect at Sally's family with two dads, which deserves as much respect as Bobby's family, with a mom, a dad, 2.4 kids and a dog.

As for the sex ed part... Schools don't teach sex right now, and that's not going to change. They teach reproduction, buy gay sex isn't going to be part of THAT lesson. And they might teach safe sex, which is going to focus far more on the protection side of things than on who's sticking what where. Regardless of whether same-sex MARRIAGE is legal or not, acceptance of homosexuality will continue to increase, and the passage or failure or Prop 8 is not going to make any difference in what's taught in sex ed.

The court’s decision will inevitably lead to conflicts with religious liberty and free speech rights. Society will become more and more hostile to traditional beliefs about marriage and family.

Society can become as hostile as it wants--the courts are going to protect first amendment rights. This includes freedom of speech and freedom of religion. Can some crazy gay couple decide to sue the Church because they can't get married in the temple? Sure they can, but they'll lose. Can someone sue the protestant minister who tells him that gay people are going to hell? Yup, but he'll lose too.

Things might get a little murkier when someone shares his opinion that all the homos ought to be rounded up and killed. That's verging on a threat, and the hate crime laws and free speech laws are going to have to duke it out. But are we really that concerned that we might lose the right to spew hate and vitriol at people we don't like?

The Church does not object to rights (already established in California) regarding hospitalization and medical care, fair housing and employment rights, or probate rights...

Great. So the Church does not object to a specific list of rights (already established in CA) for domestic partners. That list is only a small portion of the benefits the government extends to married couples (and, if we are to believe a previous point, to domestic partners in CA). Are we to assume that the Church does object to all the rights they don't list? And why include the parenthetical "already established in California"? Does that mean they do object to those rights if they haven't been established yet in other states? (History shows us that they do).

<sigh>

I'm going to be branded an apostate for this rant, I'm sure. In truth, I've lived the Gospel and loved the Church for every one of my 34 years. I've served and studied and been the model of a Latter-day Saint.

For a few months, as the fervor has been building over Prop 8, I've watched with sorrow, believing that the Church itself was acting in good faith, and that the half-truths and misleading information that the yes-on-8 campaign is using to bolster their cause was coming from other members of the coalition, or from misinformed and misguided members.

But two nights ago two Apostles and a member of the Seventy put their hand in, and on the new website a video shows another Apostle visiting with young adults and using the same half-truths and misinformation to mislead and to incite fear for a possible future that will never happen.

I'm sick at heart. I pray and I ponder and I pray some more, but no matter how hard I try I cannot feel good about Prop 8 and I cannot feel good about the major role the Church is playing in the campaign of lies and fear-mongering.

That's why I don't support Proposition 8.

Anonymous said...

You still have to admit the irony in the LDS Church promoting the will of the people when the church itself has been historically a victim of the will of the people.

Constitutional protections and separation of powers include a purpose that even Joseph Smith recognized. I hate these commercials that say if a majority of people are doing it, why shouldn't it be law?

"If everyone was jumping off a bridge ...."

Yep, it's kind of like that.